- “Rejection gives you more power to push forward.” — Jeremy Limn
- “Do not waste yourself in rejection; do not bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “It is necessary to put yourself out for rejection, and accept that you will be rejected.” — Robert Genn
- “Rejection can disappoint you, depress you and may even stop you in your tracks… learn not to take rejection so personally… if you’re honest with yourself and believe in your work, others will too.” — Bev Jozwiak
- “A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” — Bo Bennett
What is fear of rejection?
The fear of rejection is the one of toughest obstacle to reach success. The fear of rejection is one of the toughest fear that often a far-reaching effect and impact on our lives. Most of us experience fear nerves when placing us in situations where we assume rejection and for many of us the fear become crippling (causing a person to become unable to walk or move properly).
Impacts of fear of rejection
Public speaking: According to Psychology Today, surveys about our fears commonly show fear of public speaking is the top most. Our fear of standing up, walking and speaking in front of a group is so great that we fear it more than death.
Job Interviews: Many people feel uncomfortable while they are waiting to be called for an interview. Increased heart rate, laboured breathing, trouble in speaking becomes common symptoms of the fear of rejection. And these symptoms become potential reasons for an employer to reject those candidate.
Work contract negotiation: The people who have fear of rejection also trouble at negotiating a work contract, they leave valuable pay and benefits on the table.
Business dealings: Business dealings like negotiating deals, presenting products, selling products, attracting investors are the key factors and components of many business and jobs.
The people who are facing fear of rejection problems, they make worst in these areas, even something as simple, for example, receiving and answering a phone call can be terrifying for those who suffers from fear of rejection.
Dating: Meeting opposite sex, first dates are scary for anyone, but who has fear of rejection phobia, can be nightmare for them. Even in next dates, the scary or fear of rejection keeps working! You might spend all of your time worrying about whether that person likes you or not. Trouble in speaking, obsessive worrying about your own appearance are the common fear of rejection factors while you date.
The 4 step process to overcome fear of rejection
Step 1. Breakdown and define the problem and write down in a paper
In this step, you will breakdown and define the problem you are worrying about and write down on a piece of paper. Why this step? When you answer the question “What exactly am I worrying about?” then 50% of diagnosis of your problem done. According to Thomas Fuller, “A disease known is half cured.”
Step 2. Analyze and write down the worst possible outcome of the problem
In this step, you need to analyze, define and write down the worst possible result or outcome of the cited problem. For example, you may lose your money, may lose your investment, may lose your prestige. Whatever it is, write them down on paper.
Actually, through this step you will start to feel relieving the stress that causes worry.
Step 3. Accept the worst possible result or outcome
In this step, you will accept the worst possible result or outcome, if it occurs. Say to yourself, “If this problem happens in such way, I am willing to accept it, will live with and will learn from it.” When you started to accept the worst possible result or outcome, suddenly you will feel that your worrying stopped. Your stress disappears.
Step 4. Start to improve on the worst result
In this step, you will focus and begin immediately to improve upon the worst. You will analyze and find better ways, write down those ways so that you could possibly do to make sure that the very worst does not occur.